Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam...

Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam...

How simple is getting married? For those who think morals pertain...I'm wondering and noticing in social circles I know of that people are getting married later. I don't think this a "new phenomenon", but I'm certainly a part of it and wondering what it's going to take? It seems to me there are more women running around who are more willing to...to take life's many and varied scenarios and make the best of it. I don't know how a woman falls in love, but it does seem there's some point where not everything has to be in order or make sense and that woman is still willing, willing to get married. Hmm.... I think men want as much order and certainty as women, but perhaps they need it less, even so, men want to be prepared to some extent, men with morals.

Now if women have a need to know what their man is about or trying to do, and so doing his best to do it, men bring their own..."concessions". It seems to me men have a sex dilemma. Everything about the world today comments on and tries to define what is desirable and attractive in the opposite gender. Because men are leaders (or supposed to be), society has indoctrinated women with a man made concept of themselves and identity. ...I don't know when this started, but it has gone on a long time. Now women don't need or want men to tell them about themselves, probably because men have mostly only "edited" and commentated on them, as opposed to accepting and choosing them.

The dilemma for men is reconciling expectations of sex (societies overwhelmingly many ideas), to sex with a person. Men have to try to decide what doesn't matter so much before there's a willingness to be committed. To do this men must know and choose what to love. Everything that detracts from or diminishes the essence and magnetism of that one woman, all the comparisons and other secret desires, those must be set aside, only then afterwards to be discovered in that woman. This is choosing AND choosing to discover...her. Everything wanted and hoped for will be found because she's loved, and no one else in the world matters so much now. Options don't matter. This kind of thinking is very contrary to the norm because men sleep with women (and women, men) with no expectations or thoughts whatsoever of being with them for good. In fact, too many people marry now with some kind of loophole thought for backing out.

Men need sex. Women do too, but I think in a different way; it's a different kind of need. Sex though, seems to me one critical factor that brings a man to be committal and willing to marry. I don't know what kind of lovers men are, but sex drive is a basic part of the DNA. I also don't know exactly how emotional attraction fits into all this, but it does. The emotional connection is very key to how men over time grow to view that woman. (So women, be patient...and strong.) After there's a willingness, I think affection grows. We become emotionally engaged (matched or contracted...in my thesaurus), and then there's an eagerness to be together regardless. We stop worrying and do marriage. I think we're never fully prepared to be married. We step into it and trust.