o man o man o man. where are you woman?

I'm sitting reading an ironically fascinating explanation of finite state grammar. It's ironic because i'm so pleased i can enjoy it. I love irony. I love being surprised. I love discovering that what i thought might a drag or disappointment is ironically still, or newly fascinating. Now, if i may attempt some correlations. applications. ...enunciations.
When we pine for a person...we hope that person will a) take notice b) check us out & c) romantically chase us come hell or high water. maybe you can describe it as "glorying in some new found love....enamored and giddy". ...or something like that. But normally there is a problem. The problem seems to be a, b, and c are supposed to go two ways, that is, between the men and the women. I'll call it romantic reciprocity (because i love verbosity). There's all kinds of ways of sending the signals and attempting to clue in the love interest that there is, in fact, interest. Can we please fall in love? But if reciprocity is not somehow worked out, then we pine in our own little worlds.
So we can do our best to say, "i like you" and initiate, but then we must wait. Sometimes we wait a very long time. Sometimes our initiation is never well received or understood. Sometimes we give up way to soon because we think that other person is not responding the way we expect them to. The point is men and women have to initiate and they do it differently. And then we have to wait. And waiting is not sitting on pins and needles, self criticizing or neglecting all the other things to do. We cannot wait for another to define us. That is, check us out, romantically discover what we wish they'd see. We have to go on enjoying who we are (our interests), such that at some point, that person...whomever it is, may wake up and say, "Wow, what an interesting person you are." I do believe that is the order of things.

This may follow with, "Do you know what finite state grammar is?"
"No."
"Are you enamored with me yet?"
"...maybe." and so on.

to not detract from the horrible process of "initiation" and "reciprocity", I will not expound on my thoughts of "love" in this entry. that can be for another entry.